I think Sundays are meant to be a bit shit.
My online dating experiment has ended in total failure - not really a surprise, my heart wasn't in it ( see what I did there!!! ) - in fact it's ended in zero dates and almost zero interest. I have had the odd email from people who thought my profile was 'refreshingly honest' - but they probably mean 'come near me and I'll call the police'. I'm actually not that bothered.
I'm very torn with the whole online stuff. I like facebook - I didn't at first, but because it's all people I know I feel like there is a real person there, and I obviously know my parameters - a bit like a virtual pub - and because I either have regular contact with them outside or generally have physical knowledge of them ( no - not like that ), then its a positive experience.
When it comes to using the web for meeting new people, I find that really difficult. I seem to be the odd one out here. Most people I know have a blast online. For my particular demographic I found outeverywhere just fucking awful - very prissy and self conscious, as long as you were a Dr Who fan or right up your own arse you were ok. Thingbox was like hell on earth, bullying and sinister - a place to go if you want to be abused. I used to be very involved with a number of greyhound and lurcher forums - but there was a general feeling that if you said the wrong thing they would all turn on you - and the one I was most fond of was invaded by white supremecists. I tried to warn the mods several times that a couple of people were heading that way, and it all got a bit grim. Why anyone would want to spend their time trying to manipulate a thread about ingrowing dew claws on a greyhound to the number of children the average muslim woman in the UK has, just bewilders me.
I used to really like music sites and for years I was very involved with a couple of Morrissey and Smiths forums. I really liked it when Morrissey was right under the radar and it was more community / minority interest - but after 2001 when he started recording again it all got a bit silly with 15 year old girls in Seattle threatening to commit suicide on the boards and inbread Texas farm boys dumping racist and homophobic diatrabes on threads about the best place to get a cup of tea in Salford.
Personally, I can't think of anything worse that Guardian Soulmates - as was pointed out to me - most of the participants are central London media and marketing types who go to a lot of trouble to have fascinating, witty and engaging profiles and photographs that make them look like gods. Someone did look at the dating profile I had that 'died' today who fitted into that mould, I was pretty fucked off about it - they were staggeringly good looking and had a wonderful lifestyle - and a partner... really - the last thing I want to see is their gurning faces mocking me from the screen - rubbing my face in my own misery - what the FUCK they were doing there I don't know ( actually - yes, that's probably it in a nutshell ).
I just realised that it's nearly Valentines day - the one time of the year when I wish I could just vanish from the face of the earth - kinda like if someone had gone back in time and stopped my parents from getting together - instantly wiping me from the timeline. I did get a Valentines card once in Brighton that just said "Happy Valentine's day - it's such a shame that you were so shit in bed" - I've never really been able to figure who where it came from.
Yes. Sunday - the one day of the week when we should all be at home, in bed, crying into our pillows because we are single, miserable, hate out jobs, balding and in debt. There isn't even anything on the telly.
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